Ketubah: The Jewish Marriage Contract & What it Really Means

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What’s your favorite part of weddings?

  1. The wedding vows?
  2. The reception?
  3. The food?
  4. The marriage contract?

“WHOA?! Marriage contract? Are you nuts?!”

Believe it or not – not only does the Ketubah – the Jewish marriage contract – play a key role in a Jewish wedding, but it’s also one of the most emotional and memorable parts of the Jewish wedding ceremony.

So much so, that married couples often display their Ketubah in their home.

“What the hell”, right?

Don’t worry, there’s a perfectly reasonable (and fascinating) explanation for it… 

What is a Ketubah?

Ketubah 2

First, let’s start with the basics: what is a Ketubah, anyway?

The Ketubah is a traditional Jewish marriage contract, highlighting the husband’s responsibilities towards his wife. It emphasizes the husband’s obligation to provide his wife with food, clothing and other physical necessities throughout the marriage. It also mentions the husband’s obligation to provide financial support in case of a divorce.

The Ketubah was originally established to ensure that the wife is protected in case the marriage ends prematurely – due to divorce or the death of the husband. In effect, the Ketubah was put in place to incentivize the husband to stay married to his wife (and to stay alive!).

Important: That being said, the traditional Ketubah doesn’t address the problem of “Agunah” – a situation where the wife isn’t granted a ‘get’ (divorce bill) by her husband and is therefore stuck in her marriage. This problem is addressed using a Jewish prenuptial agreement.

Nowadays, however, the role of the Ketubah is mostly symbolic (except in Israel – where it’s still a legally binding contract).

Non-traditional Ketubahs are often modified, translated and made more egalitarian to fit the current social landscape (I dive more into the different types of Ketubahs later in the article).

Many Jewish couples later display their Ketubah in their home.

I know what you’re thinking: “Why on earth would you display your marriage contract?”

Two reasons:

  1. It serves as a keepsake; a reminder of the couple’s commitment to one another.
  2. Because it’s beautiful!

Modern Ketubahs are particularly stunning. More often than not, they resemble art pieces more than they do marriage contracts. That’s right, Ketubah Art is a real thing (more real than you think)!

Did You Know? Not every couple displays their Ketubah in their home.

In some communities, displaying the Ketubah is frowned upon – as it may come across as boastful.

Other couples don’t display it because they don’t find the idea of displaying a legal contract publicly very appealing. Or to quote one of our Israeli readers: “why on earth would I display a legal document?!”

Signing the Ketubah

Ketubah Signing
Original image by jchessma

Traditionally, the Ketubah signing ceremony takes place at the Tisch, where the groom is accompanied by his Rabbi, the two witnesses signing the Ketubah, and the groom’s close (male) friends and family members.

Note: In non-Orthodox weddings, both the bride and groom attend the Ketubah signing, and in some cases, they may even sign it themselves (in addition to the witnesses). While some couples do invite their guests for the Ketubah signing; others prefer a more intimate setting – with only the Rabbi, the witnesses and a handful of friends and family members present.

The Ketubah signing process goes like this:

  1. The Rabbi initiates the Ketubah signing by first reviewing the Ketubah to make sure it’s valid.
  2. The groom then agrees to take on the responsibility of providing for his wife, as stated in the Ketubah.
  3. The Rabbi hands the groom a handkerchief. The groom raises the handkerchief in front of the two witnesses – a sign of consent and acceptance of his responsibilities, as stated in the Ketubah. He then returns the handkerchief it to the Rabbi
  4. The Rabbi completes the Kinyan Chalipin (also known as Kinyan Sudar) – a symbolic form of transaction that doesn’t involve currency – by adding the Aramaic word v’kanina (or “transaction completed”) to the Ketubah
  5. The two witnesses sign the Ketubah to finalize the process and confirm that the groom has accepted the agreement (In non-Orthodox communities, the bride and groom sometimes sign the Ketubah as well)

Who Can Sign the Ketubah?

According to Jewish law, a witness has to meet the following requirements to be able to sign the Ketubah:

  1. Jewish (in Orthodox communities, they have to be observant Jewish as well)
  2. Male (in Reform and some conservative communities, women are also accepted as witnesses)
  3. Adult (above the age of Bar/Bat Mitzvah – 13+ for men and 12+ for women)
  4. Not biologically related to the couple

Here it is in a table for you visual folks:

 OrthodoxConservativeReformInterfaith or Secular
EthnicityJewish (observant Jews)JewishJewish (sometimes non-Jews are allowed)No requirements
GenderMaleMale (sometimes Females as well)No requirementsNo requirements
Age13 and older13 and older13 and olderNo requirements
Relationship to the coupleNot biologically relatedNot biologically related (some are more lenient)No requirements (some are more strict)No requirements

Reading the Ketubah

Ketubah Reading
Original image by Joe Goldberg

The Rabbi reads the Ketubah out loud in front of the guests immediately after the first phase of the wedding ceremony – the Kiddushin.

After the Ketubah reading, the groom publicly approves of his responsibilities and then passes the Ketubah to his bride, who then passes it on to a family member who keeps it safe until the end of the wedding.

Tip: Put someone trustworthy in charge of keeping the Ketubah safe throughout the wedding.

Finally, the Rabbi proceeds to the second phase of the Jewish wedding ceremony, the Nissuin (marriage), in which the Rabbi recites the famous Seven Blessings.

The Ketubah Text

Traditional Ketubah

The traditional Ketubah is written in Aramaic – the common language used at the time the Ketubah was formed.

Note: There are slight differences between the Ashkenazi and Sephardic Ketubah.

Over the years, however, several Ketubah versions began to emerge in different Jewish circles.

  • Orthodox Jews (and many Conservative Jews) use the traditional Ketubah.
  • Conservative Jews sometimes use a Hebrew Ketubah in addition to the Aramaic Ketubah.
  • Reform Jews often use an English version of the Ketubah, alongside (or instead of) the traditional one. Some couples modify the Ketubah to make it more egalitarian and personal.
  • Liberal and Interfaith Jews also use a modified version of the Ketubah to make it more egalitarian and personal.

Regardless of the version, most Ketubah texts follow the same basic structure:

  1. Time & Location: The Ketubah starts with the Hebrew date and the location of the event. The location may refer to the city, and in the US also the borough.
  2. Names: The Ketubah mentions the names of the bride and groom, their father’s names and sometimes their family name (in Egalitarian Ketubahs they sometimes mention the mothers as well).
  3. The Husband’s Responsibilities: The Ketubah then recites the marriage proposal, followed by the groom’s commitment to supporting his bride and providing for her.
  4. The “Mohar”: Traditionally, the Mohar used to be a monetary gift the groom gave his bride. Later, when it became apparent that young Jewish grooms are “broke”, the Mohar was made to represent the groom’s financial obligation towards his bride in case the marriage is terminated due to divorce or the husband’s death. Nowadays, the Mohar is mostly symbolic – there are no monetary gifts involved (and no one uses “zuzim” – the ancient biblical currency mentioned in the Ketubah).
  5. The Bride’s Consent: After the groom has vowed to care for his bride, she willingly agrees to enter the marriage.
  6. The Bride’s Dowry (Nedunya): Now that the groom’s side is taken care of, the Ketubah addresses what the bride “brings to the table”. Traditionally, Nedunya referred to the bride’s dowry – the items of value she brought into the marriage – in the form of money, gifts or other accessories. The dowry was usually given by the bride’s parents as a wedding gift. It also became the groom’s property for the duration of the marriage – giving him another incentive to honor the marriage contract.
  7. The Groom’s Agreement: The groom agrees to enter the marriage by accepting the bride’s Nedunya.
  8. The Lieberman Clause (only in Conservative Ketubahs): The Lieberman clause was added to Conservative Ketubahs in the 1950s to prevent the wife from becoming an “Agunah” – a woman who’s stuck in her marriage due to the husband’s inability or unwillingness to grant his wife a ‘get’ (bill of divorce).
  9. Witnesses Signatures: Finally, the two witnesses, both of whom are required to be Jewish, male (female witnesses are allowed in Reform weddings) and biologically unrelated to the couple, sign the Ketubah. The signatures serve as a confirmation that parties accept the terms of the marriage contract.

Ketubah Meaning & Symbolism

Decorated Ketubah

On its surface, the Ketubah is not a religious text (God isn’t mentioned even once in the Ketubah): it’s strictly a marriage contract highlighting the groom’s responsibilities for his bride.

That being said, there is a stronger, deeper meaning behind the Ketubah. It symbolizes the eternal “marriage contract” between God and Israel. God is referred to as the “groom” in the Torah, who vowed to take care of his “bride” – the Jewish people, protect them and provide them with all their needs.

Similarly, the Ketubah is an agreement made between the bride and groom, where the groom vows to take care of his bride’s needs.

Who Buys the Ketubah?

Bride Groom And Ketubah
Original image by Agence Tophos

In most cases, the couple buys their own Ketubah.

The Ketubah isn’t something you arbitrarily add to your wedding registry next to your favorite kitchen appliances. This is your marriage contract we’re talking about here. It’s what symbolically (and in Israel – legally) bounds you together as a couple. It’s what a Jewish couple displays oh-so-proudly in their future home – for decades.

Tip: In some cases, a close family member (often the parents) volunteers to buy the Ketubah as a wedding gift. But even then – it’s done with the couple’s blessing.

How Much Does a Ketubah Cost?

David Fisher Jewish Paper Cut Round Modern Ketubah

A Ketubah can cost anywhere from $0 to $1,000 or even more (high-end designer Ketubahs can go way beyond that), depending on the quality, size, material, frame, and of course – the artist. The average cost of a Ketubah is somewhere between $150 – $400.

Note: $0? Yep. Technically, nothing is stopping you from downloading a free Ketubah text, and printing it yourself. I’m not saying you should do it, I’m just saying that it can be done (especially if you’re on a budget).

Framing the Ketubah

Framed Ketubah
Original image by jchessma

If you’re planning on displaying your Ketubah at the wedding, the best way is to mat and frame the Ketubah before the wedding, but leave out the glass. That way, you can display the Ketubah on an easel at the Kabbalat Panim, before it is signed by the witnesses. Once the Ketubah is signed and the ink has dried (even better – use a fade-resistant pen), you can add the glass back on.

Tip: If you take it to a local framer – make sure to tell them not to cover the important parts of the Ketubah (especially the signature area!). A little planning goes a long way.


While the Ketubah is technically a marriage contract, it’s so much more than that: it’s a historical Jewish wedding tradition, a symbolic wedding contract, a Jewish version of the wedding vows, AND a remarkable piece of art – all combined into one document.

It’s no wonder why guests arrive early in Jewish weddings – they want to get a “front-row seat” to the Ketubah signing – one of the most special moments of the entire Jewish wedding ceremony, and the most exciting event in the Kabbalat Panim (the pre-wedding reception).

So remember kids: if you’re attending a Jewish wedding anytime soon – you DO NOT want to miss it.

And if you’re the one getting married – make sure to choose your Ketubah wisely :).

Mazel Tov!

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