Bar/Bat Mitzvah kids adults these days don’t just want a Bar/Bat Mitzvah party. They want their party theme to match their “obsession of the day”.
- “Mommy, Daddy, I want a Football themed Bar Mitzvah!”
- “Mommy, Daddy, I want a beach themed Bat Mitzvah!”
- “Candy! I want candy!”
Now is the time to choose the main course.
And no, I’m not talking about the food… I’m talking about your Bar/Bat Mitzvah centerpieces & decorations.
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Bar/Bat Mitzvah Entrance Decorations
Ever heard of the serial position effect?
The serial position effect is a flaw us humans have – it’s our tendency to remember the first and last items in a particular event.
What does that have to do with your Bar/Bat Mitzvah party?
If you want your guests to have a great time at your Bar/Bat Mitzvah party – you want to make them remember the beginning and the end of your party.
That means you’ve got a golden opportunity to capture their attention the moment they enter the venue with beautiful decorations. Don’t waste it!
Note: I’ll talk about what to you should do at the end of the event, at the end of this article (see what I did there?)
Bar/Bat Mitzvah Guest Books & Sign-in Boards
People approach Bar/Bat Mitzvah guest books as keepsakes (which they are). But if you ask me – they’re a chance for guest to create a real bond with the Bar/Bat Mitzvah.
It’s their opportunity to write a deep, thoughtful message that lasts… forever.
Imagine getting a phone call in 20 years from now… on the other side of the phone is a 33-year-old Bar Mitzvah, saying:
“Hey Rebecca, you wouldn’t believe what I just found… I just read the message you wrote in my Bar Mitzvah guest book… and I swear – someone was cutting onions in the room.”
My answer to that would be… Stop crying! And make a salad while you’re at it!
Sorry… got a bit carried away over there…
Where was I? Oh right, guest books!
Meet Jacob, the made-up guy who’s (NOT) going to call me in 20 years (so feel free to replace him with your own Bar Mitzvah’s picture) on top a beautiful Bar Mitzvah guest book.
What about the Bat Mitzvah?
I personally like this Bat Mitzvah guest book.
Or, if you want to go BIG – you can even get one of these giant sign-in boards.
You can either go for a handmade, acrylic Bar/Bat Mitzvah sign-in board such as this one.
Or settle for a simpler (and way cheaper) Bar/Bat Mitzvah signature frame.
These sign-in boards are instant attention-grabbers… your guests can’t help but write their hearts out…
Remember – the good thing about a sign-in board is that it’s out in the open for everyone to see… you bet they’ll want to write a blessing that stands out for everyone to see.
And the good thing? Your Bar/Bat Mitzvah gets a keepsake they’ll keep FOREVER.
Bar/Bat Mitzvah Seating Charts & Cards
Imagine asking the receptions: “What table are we at?”
And instead of telling you: “Table 6, now go away” (poor girl, she’s probably under a lot of pressure), she hands you these Broadway tickets.
How cool is that?
Or take these Bar Mitzvah sport escort cards…
Did someone say “creative”?
Note: In case you’re wondering – both the Broadway tickets and the sports cards are made by the same (talented) person: Michelle – aka “the original pear”.
Or, if you want to give the poor receptionist a break – you can instead use one of these photo seating charts so people can find their seats in a quick glance.
Bar/Bat Mitzvah Banners
Banners and parties go together like Falafel and Pita.
The only question is what kind of banner?
You can hang decorative banners like these cute floral Mazel Tov banners:
Or you can go BIG and hang a GIANT banner like this one:
Or, my absolute favorite: hang this awesome Bar/Bat Mitzvah backdrop banner:
This is an absolute photo (and selfie) magnet!
Just tell Amanda (the designer) how you like to customize the banner, and she’ll take care of everything.
Tip: If you’re planning a reception with food-stations and stuff – here’s a BIG tip: hang this backdrop in the reception area. That will get rid of those queues that start to form behind the popular food stations, and relieve your guest’s frustrations!
Bar/Bat Mitzvah Directional Sign
This Bar/Bat Mitzvah directional sign isn’t a party décor item per se, but it can help “set the stage” for your guests before they enter the hall (or at least help them find the party and not get lost on the way there).
Bar/Bat Mitzvah Table Centerpieces & Decorations
Like it or not, your guests will spend most of their time sitting at their table (except for those people who go crazy on the dancefloor all night) … so you better make sure their table is attractive and has a good atmosphere.
Now, there are TONS of cool table centerpieces and decorations that’ll make your tables look pretty.
Remember: You don’t have to choose EVERYTHING on this list. Pick-and-choose the Bar/Bat Mitzvah centerpieces you like.
Bar/Bat Mitzvah Napkins
Since you’re going to have napkins anyway (unless you want people wiping their faces with their bare hands…yuck!), wouldn’t it be a good idea to decorate your tables with custom Bar & Bat Mitzvah napkins with your child’s name on it?
I personally like these Star of David Bar Mitzvah napkins.
What about a Bat Mitzvah? Doesn’t she get a Star of David?
Of course she does!
Behold these lovely Star of David Bat Mitzvah napkins.
You can choose between luncheon napkins (ideal for Bar/Bat Mitzvah luncheons) or cocktail napkins (ideal for guests who’ve had too many drinks and need the napkin to remind them who’s Bar/Bat Mitzvah they’re attending).
And for an extra “Jewish touch”, you can decorate your luncheon napkins with these cute Star of David napkin rings.
Bar/Bat Mitzvah Flower Centerpieces & Floral Arrangements
Bar/Bat Mitzvah parties these days look more like weddings than birthday parties.
But does that mean you should go crazy with your flower arrangements as if it’s a wedding party??
If you ask me, no…
Think about it:
- There’s no Chuppah
- There are no bridesmaids (so no bouquets)
- Chair arrangements? Optional, definitely not necessary.
Bottom line – flower centerpieces for the tables is all you really need.
Hire a florist, DIY or order beautiful pre-made flower centerpieces… but whatever you do – do NOT spend thousands of dollars on floral arrangements (unless you’re planning a really BIG party). That’s completely unnecessary.
Bar/Bat Mitzvah Table Covers
As boring as it may sound, you do need to cover up your tables somehow…
Otherwise, as they say in Hebrew: חבל!
Simple disposable plastic tablecloths can get the job done…
Bar/Bat Mitzvah Table Numbers
I know what you’re thinking:
Table numbers? It’s freakin’ table numbers! What can possibly be so special about table numbers?!”
I can tell you, but I’d rather just show you…
Take these awesome movie film table numbers for example:
(Table) 3…(Table) 2…(Table) 1… and ACTION!
What is this, the Oscars or a Bar/Bat Mitzvah?!
If your child is having a Hollywood-themed Bar/Bat Mitzvah, then there’s no difference whatsoever… you gotta stick with the theme, people!
Or how about if the Bar Mitzvah is obsessed with sports (Football, Baseball, Hockey, Basketball… take your pick)? You guessed it – there’s a cool table number for that too!
Like these super-cool Sports table numbers!
But you don’t have to “stick to the theme”, so to speak.
You can go for stylish display table numbers like these beautifully calligraphed table numbers.
Bar/Bat Mitzvah Paper Cups
Needless to say, you wouldn’t (and shouldn’t) use paper cups if you’re having a big Bar/Bat Mitzvah event in a fancy venue.
But if you’re hosting a Bar/Bat Mitzvah luncheon or a small party with your kid’s friends and classmates, with drinks and snacks – then why not replace the standard (read: boring) plastic/paper cups with some cool ones?
Take this funky Bar Mitzvah cup for example:
Your Bat Mitzvah isn’t a big fan of rock?
No worries – you can get a fancy and glittery Bat Mitzvah paper cup, and customize it just for her.
Bar/Bat Mitzvah Coasters
You’ve got the cups taken care of… how do you guarantee the kids won’t spill their drinks all over the place?
Thing is… good luck convincing a bunch of 12 and 13-year old’s that are hyped up on sugar to use a coaster.
Who knows? Maybe a customized Bar/Bat Mitzvah coaster with your child’s face staring right at them will do the trick?
Plus, it’s much cooler 🙂
Take young Davina on this coaster…
It looks like she’s saying: “I’m looking at you, Rebecca! Don’t you dare walking jumping around with your soda without using a coaster!”
Now replace Davina with your Bat Mitzvah… (because nobody knows who Davina is)
Or take young Benjamin (aka Benji) on this cute chalkboard coaster.
Think his look is convincing enough?
Bar/Bat Mitzvah Bottle Labels
Speaking of spilling drinks…
Yes – you can even customize & decorate the drinks themselves!
Take a look at these awesome Bar Mitzvah water bottles:
And of course – custom Bat Mitzvah water bottles for the young ladies:
Water never looked so appealing…
Who knows, maybe the youngsters would choose to skip the Sodas and go straight for the water bottles? (I doubt it, but it never hurts to hope!)
But hey – even if they do choose to stick with their favorite soda’s, you can use these same water bottle labels for other bottles.
I’m sure the water bottles wouldn’t mind…
Bar/Bat Mitzvah Party Supplies
OK, we took care of the Bar/Bat Mitzvah table centerpieces.
The only thing left?
Don’t worry! It’s not that daunting…
All you really need for a Bar/Bat Mitzvah party is:
- A banner or two
- A few Balloons
- Maybe some confetti
That’s easy peasy…
Let’s go over each of these quickly.
Bar/Bat Mitzvah Balloons
No birthday party is complete without balloons. Let alone a Bar/Bat Mitzvah party.
TODO: Add balloon images from Balloon Artistry
Look! Balloons… balloons everywhere!
Bar/Bat Mitzvah Confetti
I have to admit – I hate confetti… (It’s so freakin’ hard to clean!)
I know, I know: “It’s a party… what the hell is wrong with you, Rebecca?!”
Yadda yadda yadda!
OK, to be fair – as long as you’re not doing the cleaning afterward… I guess they’re not so bad.
If you do insist on popping confetti, then you might as well get “Jewish” ones, like this neat Mazel Tov confetti:
Bar/Bat Mitzvah Candle Lighting Decorations
Time to shine a light on the Bar/Bat Mitzvah candle lighting ceremony (pun intended)!
The candle lighting ceremony is where you get to really go bananas with your Bar/Bat Mitzvah theme decorations (hey, bananas! That’s a cool Bar Mitzvah theme!).
I’m constantly surprised by the level of creativity you’ll find in Bar/Bat Mitzvah these days.
Here are just a couple of popular Bar & Bat Mitzvah candle lighting decorations you can draw inspiration from…
Special thanks to Balloon artistry for sharing their awesome candle lighting images!
You can get a similar personalized candle lighting displays here.
Bar/Bat Mitzvah Cake Decorations
This is the sweetest part of the Bar/Bat Mitzvah (and the sweetest part of this article to be frank).
So far, your child only received a children’s cake for his previous birthdays.
But now it’s their Bar/Bat Mitzvah… a children’s cake won’t cut it anymore, you need a “real” cake. A cake that blends with the Bar/Bat Mitzvah theme yet stands out…
Here are just a couple of yummy-looking and yummy-tasting cakes! (I’ve written an entire post with TONS of Bar & Bat Mitzvah cake ideas. Check it out!)
Bar/Bat Mitzvah Cake Toppers
Bar/Bat Mitzvah Cake? A piece of cake, with a cake topper on top!
Just like a wedding cake has a tiny bride & groom on top, a Bar/Bat Mitzvah cake has…well, it can have different things.
You can go with an elegant Bar Mitzvah cake topper like this one (it can be customized)
“Mazel Tov”, a Star of David – nothing out of the ordinary here.
You got it:
This LED Bar Mitzvah cake topper is quite unorthodox (but is great for Orthodox Jews 🙂 )… especially when it’s engraved with the Bar Mitzvah’s name.
Or you can step it up a few notches and choose a premium Bar Mitzvah cake topper…
This remarkable cake topper of a Jewish boy reading from the Torah is made of genuine, hand blown glass. You can even choose the finish type: clear glass, silver, gold (yes, gold… heavy gold!)… so needless to say, expect to pay more for this gem.
Ideas are endless… choices are a few (only one).
Bar/Bat Mitzvah Favors & Giveaways
… Your child (I mean, adult) is having the time of their life.
… Your guests are having a blast.
… Even you’re having a “decent” amount of fun
Mission Bar/Bat Mitzvah = SUCCESS 💪
But here’s the thing – when your guests wake up the next morning, chances are they’ll forget all about your Bar/Bat Mitzvah party and move on with their lives…
Sad, but (unfortunately) true…
Unless… (remember the serial position effect? this is what you do at the end of the event)
Unless you spoil them so much with unique Bar & Bat Mitzvah favors, that it’ll be impossible for them to forget your Bar/Bat Mitzvah event anytime soon.
Here’s what I mean…
- When they open their sock drawer the moment they wake up – poof! There are those awesome socks they got at your Bar/Bat Mitzvah.
- When they’ll make coffee in the morning before heading off to work – poof! There’s that cool coffee mug from your party!
- When they’ll play card games on Yom Kippur… poof! There’s that elegant Star of David deck of cards from your event.
That’s how you “hijack” someone’s mind – you pop up in their life… every-single-day. (muahahaha!)
Tip: Check out our Bar/Bat Mitzvah giveaways guide for more “evil” ideas.
If you do that, do you think they’ll forget your Bar/Bat Mitzvah that quickly?
Don’t think so…
That was a lot to take in, huh?
Hey – I didn’t say decorating your Bar/Bat Mitzvah party is easy… did I?
I know, I know – there’s lots to choose from and very little time…
But as long as you remember the following “golden” Bar/Bat Mitzvah decoration tips – you’ll be golden:
- Match your decorations to your Bar/Bat Mitzvah theme
Focus on your child’s theme, and ignore everything else.
- Be creative (read: NOT boring!)
You’ve seen one Bar/Bat Mitzvah, you’ve seen em’ all… right?
Well, here’s your chance to prove your guests wrong! Surprise your guests with unique & surprising décor, and trust me – they’ll spread the word out so fast on that your Facebook feed will be full of pictures from your Bar/Bat Mitzvah party.
- Ignore the shiny objects
You don’t need the latest decorative art piece by Monet for your Bar/Bat Mitzvah (hint: there’s no “latest” art piece by Monet). Stick to the basics and don’t get distracted.
Good luck… and Mazel Tov 🙂