100+ Unique & Emotional Bar/Bat Mitzvah Candle Lighting Songs: The Complete List (2020)

At what point during the Bar/Bat Mitzvah ceremony do the tissues come out (emotional tears, not sad tears)?

Believe it or not – it’s often during the Bar/Bat Mitzvah candle lighting ceremony.

But for that to happen – you need:

Believe me – you don’t want Justin Bieber playing when you invite your grandma to light a candle (just saying…).

You want a song that:

  1. They like (or at least don’t hate)
  2. Matches the personality of the person
  3. Is appropriate for the occasion (I don’t care how much you like Busta Rhymes. It ain’t gonna happen!)

Well, lucky for you – I’ve gathered the most popular candle lighting ceremony songs all into one place – so you don’t have to spend hours scouring the web trying to assemble a song list.

Remember: These are just recommendations… if you know what songs Grandma likes, what song makes auntie Bracha laugh (or cry), or what boy-band your cousin Rachel was addicted to as a teenager (Nick from Backstreet Boys! I Love You!) – choose them!

Tips for Choosing the Best Bar/Bat Mitzvah Candle Lighting Songs

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Imagine being called to light a candle, with an awful Justin Bieber song playing in the background…

Now that person has to walk up on stage embarrassed in front of everyone.

“I think I’ll stay in my seat, thank you very much.”

It might not seem like a big deal. But trust me – such a small thing can ruin your guest’s entire evening (even though your intentions were good).

How do you avoid that trap?

Here are a few tips that’ll help you avoid awkward situations when you choose your Bar/Bat Mitzvah candle lighting songs:

1. Dedicate a song to each person

Remember the Rocky movies? Every time Rocky entered the ring, his special theme song was playing to “pump him up” before the big match.

Same thing here: if the person you’re inviting to light a candle has a favorite song – play it.

That’s a small gesture that goes a long way (just hope they don’t punch you in the face if you play the Rocky theme song) for someone you love. 

Besides, odds are they went above and beyond to get you a meaningful Bar Mitzvah gift (or Bat Mitzvah gift). The least you can do is dedicate a meaningful song to them.

2. Don’t choose inappropriate songs

I don’t care how much you love Justin Bieber… If you’re inviting Grandma Betsy to light a candle, tell Justin to wait in the hall and choose a more appropriate song (let alone if it’s a memory candle)

3. Choose a style and stay consistent

One second you play a Dance song, then you change to classical music, then you move to Hip Hop…


You might as well hand your guests a bunch of aspirins instead of Bar/Bat Mitzvah favors.

It gave me a headache just writing this…

It’s OK to switch it up a bit, but don’t overdo it otherwise you’ll have a bunch of old folks nagging in the bathroom.

Bar/Bat Mitzvah Candle Lighting Song Suggestions & Ideas

Unless you’re a Hollywood celebrity who decided to throw a belated Bar/Bat Mitzvah party on your 45th birthday – odds are you’ll light 12-13 candles in your candle lighting ceremony.

That’s 12-13 candles you get to dedicate to your family, friends and loved ones.

Now. Let’s take a standard candle lighting order like this one:

  1. A memorial candle to honor the deceased
  2. Grandparents
  3. Aunts & Uncles
  4. Cousins
  5. Older family relatives
  6. Younger family relatives
  7. People who came from a distance
  8. Older family friends
  9. Younger family friends
  10. The Bar/Bat Mitzvah’s friends
  11. Parents
  12. Siblings
  13. Special guest/s of honor

That means you need 12-13 songs. Easy-peasy!

Now, for fun part: choosing a song for each person on that list!

Memorial Candle Songs

Bar Bat Mitzvah Memorial Candle Songs

Keep in Mind: If your relative has recently passed away, you may want to skip the song altogether…

Memory – Barbra Streisand
I Will Remember You – Sarah MacLachlan
My Heart Will Go On – Celine Dion
Unforgettable – Natalie & Nat Cole
I Will Always Love You – Whitney Houston
Somewhere Over the Rainbow – Israel Kamakawiwoʻole
You’ll Be in My Heart – Phil Collins
Angel of Mine – Monica
Memories – Elvis Presley
One Sweet Day – Boys II Men & Mariah Carey
Somewhere Out There – James Ingram
Tears in Heaven – Eric Clapton
Together Again – Janet Jackson
See You Again – Wiz Khalifa & Charlie Puth

Songs for Grandparents

Bar Bat Mitzvah Songs For Grandparents

You Are The Sunshine of My Life – Stevie Wonder
L’Chaim (To Life) – Fiddler on the Roof
Sunrise, Sunset – Fiddler on the Roof
Tradition -Fiddler on the Roof
Through the Years – Kenny Rogers
Can’t Smile Without You – Barry Manilow
You Make Me So Very Happy – Blood, Sweat & Tears
Forever Young – Rod Stewart
Times of Your Life – Paul Anka
Have I Told You Lately – Rod Stewart or Van Morrison
As Time Goes – Jimmy Durante
I Just Called To Say I Love You – Stevie Wonder
I Say a Little Prayer – Dionne Warwick
Imagine – John Lennon
It’s A Family Affair – Sly & the Family Stone
Oh What a Night (December 63) – Four Seasons
Put A Little Love in Your Heart – Al Greene
How Sweet It Is (to be loved by you) – Marvin Gaye or James Taylor
In the Mood – Glenn Miller
I’m So Excited – The Pointer Sisters
We Are Family – Sister Sledge
Hot Hot Hot – Buster Poindexter
It’s A Sunshine Day – The Brady Bunch
Rock & Roll All Nite – Kiss
What I Like About You – The Romantics
Respect – Aretha Franklin
Do You Love Me – Contour
Still The One -Orleans
More Today Than Yesterday-Spiral Staircase
Let The Good Times Roll-Cars
Takin’ Care of Business-BTO
Do You Believe In Magic-Loving Spoonful
Love Will Keep Us Together-Captain & Tenille
Happy Together-The Turtles
It’s Not Unusual-Tom Jones
Good Times – Chic
Never Gonna Give You Up-Rick Ashley
I Think I Love You-The Partridge Family
Ease on Down the Road– Michael Jackson & Diana Ross
Everything I Do– Bryan Adams
Hero– Mariah Carey
I Say a Little Prayer– Diane King
I’ll Always Love You– Whitney Houston
My Way– Frank Sinatra
Rock Around The Clock– Bill Haley and The Comets
Siman Tov & Mazel Tov
Hava Nagila
Wonderful World– Louis Armstrong
Your Love is My Love– Whitney Houston
As Time Goes By – Perry Como
At Last – Etta James
Because I Love You – Stevie B
Can’t Help Falling In Love – Ub40
God Must Have Spent A Little More Time – N’sync
Greatest Love Of All – Whitney Houston
How Sweet It Is (To Be Loved By You) – James Taylor
I Got You Babe – Sonny And Cher
I Think I Love You – The Partridge Family
I’ll Be There – Mariah Carey
I’m So Excited – Pointer Sisters
It Had To Be You – Harry Connick Jr.
I’ve Had The Time Of My Life – Bill Medley & Jennifer Warnes
Just The Two Of Us – Will Smith
Good Times Roll – The Cars
Mambo #5 – Lou Bega
Mustang Sally – Wilson Pickett
Sugar, Sugar – The Archies
That’s Amore – Dean Martin & Frank Sinatra
Through The Years – Kenny Rogers
Time Of Your Life – Green Day
Twist & Shout – Isley Brothers
Unchained Melody – The Righteous Brothers
Under The Boardwalk – The Drifters
Unforgettable – Nat King Cole & Natalie Cole
When I’m 64 – The Beatles
You Light Up My Life – Leann Rimes
Young At Heart – Frank Sinatra

Songs for Relatives (Aunts & Uncles, Cousins…)

Bar Bat Mitzvah Relative Songs

Pretty Woman – Roy Orbison
Put A Little Love In Your Heart – Al Green & Annie Lennox
Respect – Aretha Franklin
Sabbath Prayer – Fiddler On The Roof
Simply The Best – Tina Turner
Some Kind Of Wonderful – Grand Funk
Still The One – Orleans
Strike It Up – Black Box
Sugar, Sugar – The Archies
Sunrise, Sunset – Fiddler On The Roof
Takin’ Care Of Business – Bto
That’s Amore – Dean Martin & Frank Sinatra
The Godfather Soundtrack
The Way We Were – Barbra Streisand
The Way You Look Tonight – Frank Sinatra
Those Were The Days – Mary Hopkin
Through The Years – Kenny Rogers
Times Of Your Life – Paul Anka
To Life (L’Chaim) – Fiddler On The Roof
Tonight’s The Night – Rod Stewart
Tradition – Fiddler On The Roof
Twist & Shout – Isley Brothers
Unforgettable – Nat & Natalie Cole
We Are Family – Sister Sledge
Bad Case of Lovin You– Robert Palmer
Celebration– Kool & the Gang
Dancing On The Ceiling– Lionel Richie
Everybody have Fun– Wang Chung
Great Balls of Fire– Jerry Lee Lewis
Hot Stuff – Donna Summer
I Love the Nightlife– Alicia Bridges
If I Were a Rich Man– Fiddler On the Roof
Instant Replay– Dan Hartman
La Bamba– Los Lobos
New York, New York– Frank Sinatra
Rock Around The Clock– Bill Haley & The Comets
So Many Men, So little Time-Miguel Brown
Everybody – Backstreet Boys
Free– Ultra Nate
Gettin’ Jiggy With It– Will Smith
Good Lovin– The Young Rascals
Hot Hot Hot– Buster Poindexter
It’s a Sunshine Day– The Brady Bunch Smile
Walkin’ on Sunshine– Katrina & The Waves
We Like to Party– Venga Boys
Where My Girls At? – 702

Songs for Friends (and Family Friends)

Bar Bat Mitzvah Songs For Friends

Friends-Bette Midler
I’ll Be There– Mariah Carey
I’ll Be There for You-Rembrandts (Friends theme song)
Lean on Me-Bill Withers
Stand by Me-Ben E. King
Don’t Stop The Party – Pitbull
Feel So Close – Calvin Harris
Viva La Vida – Coldplay
Thank You for Being a Friend -Andrew Gold
That’s What Friends Are For-Dionne Warwick
We Go Together-Grease
With A Little Help from My Friends-Beatles
You’ve Got a Friend – James Taylor
You’ve Got a Friend in Me-Randy Newman
Count on Me-Bruno Mars
We’re All in This Together-High School Musical
You’re My Best Friend-Queen
Girls Just Wanna Have Fun-Cyndi Lauper
Mr. Roger’s Neighborhood Theme
Don’t Stop Believing-Journey
Stand by You-Rachel Platten
Anytime you need a Friend– Mariah Carey
Bad Boys– Inner Circle
Bad Boys– Miami Sound Machine
Everybody – Backstreet Boys
Fly– Sugar Ray
Fun Fun Fun– Beach Boys
I Gotta Feeling – Black Eyed Peas
Gettin’ Jiggy With It– Will Smith
Girls – Beastie Boys
Girls Girls Girls– Motley Crue
Heal the World– Michael Jackson
I Saw Her Standing There– The Beatles
I’ll Be There– Mariah Carey
Let’s Go Crazy– Prince
My Love is Your Love– Whitney Houston
Pretty Fly for a White Guy– Offspring
Shook Me All Night Long– AC/DC
Still A Friend of Mine– Incognito
Teach the Children– Crosby Stills Nash & Young
The Boys are Back in Town– Thin Lizzie
Theme from Growing Pains (As Long As We’ve Got Each Other)
We Like to Party – Venga Boys
We Will Rock You – Queen
What a Girl Wants – Christina Aguilera
What About Your Friends – TLC
Whenever I Call You Friend – Melissa Manchester
Whoomp! There It Is – Tag Team
Where My Girls At? – 702
Wild Thing – Tone Loc
You’re A Friend of Mine – Clarence Clemmons
You’re My Best Friend – Queen
True Friend – Hannah Montana
Eye Of The Tiger – Survivor
Get The Party Started – Pink

Songs for Parents

Bar Bat Mitzvah Candle Lighting Songs For Parents

I Will Always Love You – Whitney Houston
As Long as We Got Each Other-Growing Pains Theme
Time to Remember-Billy Joel
I’ll Be There-Mariah Carey
I’ll Stand by You-The Pretenders
Together Forever-Rick Astley
Teach Your Children-Crosby, Stills & Nash
We’re Havin’ A Party-Rod Stewart
Greatest Love of All-Whitney Houston
Heaven Must Have Sent You-Bonnie Pointer
Through the Years-Kenny Rogers
Wind Beneath My Wings-Bette Midler
You’re the Inspiration-Chicago
Hero-Mariah Carey
I Believe in You and Me – The Four Tops
I Just Called to Say I Love You – Stevie Wonder
I Turn to You – Christina Aguilera
Isn’t She Lovely – Stevie Wonder
I’ve Had the Time of My Life – Bill Medley & Jennifer Warnes
Just the Way You Are – Billy Joel
Love of My Life – Jim Brickman
More Today Than Yesterday – Spiral Staircase
My Girl – The Temptations
One Moment in Time – Whitney Houston
Perfect Fan – Backstreet Boys
Power of Love – Celine Dion
Save the Best for Last – Vanessa Williams
Somewhere Out There – Linda Ronstadt & James Ingram
Song for Mama – Boyz 2 Men
Suddenly – Billy Ocean
You Are The Sunshine of My Life – Stevie Wonder
The Perfect Fan – Backstreet Boys
The Way We Were – Barbara Streisand
There You’ll Be – Faith Hill
Tonight I Celebrate My Love – Peabo Bryson & Roberta Flack
Can You Feel The Love Tonight – Elton John
Everlasting Love – Gloria Estefan
I’ll Be There For You Jon – Bon Jovi
How Sweet it is to be Loved by You – Marvin Gaye

Songs for Kids (or Young Spirits)

Bar Bat Mitzvah Songs For Kids

Go Go Power Rangers – Power Rangers Theme
I Love You – Barney Theme
Sesame Street Theme
Hakuna Matata – Lion King Soundtrack
Under the Sea – Little Mermaid
The Lion Sleeps Tonight – The Tokens
Sponge Bob Theme
Dora The Explorer Theme
Be Our Guest – Beauty & the Beast Soundtrack
Let It Go – Frozen Soundtrack

Songs for Siblings

Bar Bat Mitzvah Songs For Siblings

A Whole New World – Regina Belle & Pebo Bryson
All She Wants To Do Is Dance – Don Henley
All Star – Smash Mouth
Anything You Can Do I Can Do Better – Annie
Baby Love – The Supremes
Bad Boys – Inner Circle
Bad To The Bone – George Thorogood
Barbie Girl – Aqua
Beautiful Boy – John Lennon
Big Girls Don’t Cry – Four Seasons
Born To Be Wild – Steppenwolf
Brother – Bluebottles
Brown Eyed Girl – Van Morrison
California Girls – The Beach Boys
Carribean Queen – Billy Ocean
Do Wah Diddy – Manfred Mann
Do You Think I’m Sexy – Rod Stewart
Eye Of The Tiger – Survivor
Forever Young-Rod Stewart
Get Ready For This – 2 Unlimited
Girls – Beastie Boys
Girls Just Wanna Have Fun – Cyndi Lauper
He Ain’t Heavy, He’s My Brother – Hollies
Hey Little Sister (Lyrics From White Wedding) – Billy Idol
Honky Tonk Woman – The Rolling Stones
I Just Can’t Wait To Be King – The Lion King
I Wanna Be Rich – Calloway
I Want To Hold Your Hand – The Beatles
I’m Every Woman – Whitney Houston
I’m A Believer – Smash Mouth
I’m So Excited – Pointer Sisters
I’m Too Sexy – Right Said Fred
Isn’t She Lovely – Stevie Wonder
I’ve Had The Time Of My Life – Bill Medley & Jennifer Warnes
Ladies Night – Kool & The Gang
Lady – Kenny Rogers
Bad Girls– Donna Summer
Brick House– Commodores
I Saw Her Standing There– Beatles
Isn’t She Lovely– Stevie Wonder
Maria– Ricky Martin
Modern Woman– Billy Joel
More Than A Woman– Bee Gees
Pretty Woman– Roy Orbison
She Drives Me Crazy– Fine Young Cannibals
Supermodel (you better work) Ru Paul
Theme from Growing Pains (As Long As We’ve Got Each Other)
What’s my Age Again – Blink 182
All the Small Things – Blink 182
One Call Away – Chalie Puth
Uptown Girl– Billy Joel
Where My Girls At?– 702
Bad Boys Theme– (Reggae) Inner Circle
Let’s Hear It For The Boy– Deniece Williams
Livin’ La Vida Loca– Ricky Martin
Macho Man– Village People
My Way– Usher
Rocky Theme (Gonna Fly Now)
Simply the Best– Tina Turner
Soul man– Blues Brother
Superman Theme
Supermodel (You Better Work)– Ru Paul
The Boys Are Back In Town– Thin Lizzie
Whatta Man– Salt & Pepa
Wild Thing– The Throggs

Song for Guests of Honor

Bar Bat Mitzvah Guest Of Honor

Another One Bites the Dust– Queen
Birthday– Beatles
How Sweet It Is – James Taylor
Hero – Enrique Iglesias
Because You Loved Me – Celine Dion
Celebration– Kool & the Gang
Here Comes the Hot stepper– Ini Kamoze
I Feel Good– James Brown (or the fast version)
Save the Best for Last– Vanessa Williams
Simply The Best– Tina Turner
Still the One– Orleans
Feel So Close – Calvin Harris
Waiting for Tonight– Jennifer Lopez
We’re Having a Party– Rod Stewart
Through The Years – Kenny Rogers
How Sweet It Is – James Taylor
What A Wonderful World – Louie Armstrong


Choose wisely, my young Padawan…

But let me remind you again – while all these Bar/Bat Mitzvah candle lighting songs are great, nothing beats your own personal choices.

You know your family & friends better than the MTV Latest hits… so choose the songs that fit you and your Bar/Bat Mitzvah.

Mazel Tov!

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